Are You A Reason, A Season, or a Lifetime?

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.  They may seem like a Godsend, and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something that will bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of  joy.

Believe it, it is real. But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships give you lifetime lessons,

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you are a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME.  

(article forwarded through email by a friend)

12 comments October 5, 2008 rosevillegas

How Do You Find A Good Husband?

Where do you find good ones like your husband?   I’ve been asked so many times. Well, I’m just fortunate to have found one.  But,  I think men who make good husbands abound. But what is good for one woman is not necessarily good for all.
One man can make one woman, a good husband.  The same man can make another, a lousy one.  We grow up in different homes.  We come from different backgrounds. And so we bring different expectations to a marriage.  One woman expects love and fidelity.  Another expects financial security.   Some women marry for love. Others marry for tradition.  Some women expect bliss after the wedding.  Some women expect sacrifice.  Some women are forgiving.  Some women are not open to compromise. Different expectations conjure up different images of good husbands.  Who doesn’t want a man who can cook (mine’s expert in boiling water), who can write poetry (no dice) and who can move your furniture around when you want to?   Well, I don’t.  I want a man who can do what I can’t do.

There is no perfect man.  Just as there’s no perfect woman.  But, there is a perfect match for everybody (don’t you think?).  Most people think that like minds make a perfect match.  But how much passion and excitement can you bring into a relationship when you both love pasta, hate parties and socializing?  If we think, eat and dress completely alike, how far could we really grow beyond ourselves and our common interests?

 I think that a good husband is someone who does not necessarily love and like everything that you think, say or do but someone who endeavors to accept your eccentricities and experiences because his love for you is larger than his priorities and preferences.  A good husband is a man who loves you for who you are and all that you hope to be in an imperfect world.

So, where do you find good husbands?  Well, every woman should know.   Looking for a good husband is much like going shopping.  When you know what you want,  it’s fast and easy.  But when you walk aimlessly through the mall,  you mostly end up with impulse goods or nothing at all.
 
If you want to find the man you want, you need to find yourself first.  After all, it’s pretty easy to find what you want when you know what it is, even in the crowd.

6 comments September 22, 2008 rosevillegas

Do You Have Teens? A Sensible Advise to Best Handle Yours.

Don’t Overreact to Teenagers Are you planning to have teenagers? If you’re going to let your
children live past twelve years old, you better get used to the idea.
Adolescent changes often startle parents. They feel threatened by the
new thinking and behavior. In fact, it’s hard to not feel threatened
knowing that a teen may attack or explode at the slightest irritation.
Teen actions and questions are often perceived as forms of rebellion and
parents have a hard time knowing whether this is a phase to be ignored
or the beginning of a problem that needs urgent action.

It’s important to know where to draw the line. Independent thinking is
healthy but disrespect is not. Choosing one’s own values is necessary
but can’t be an excuse for dishonor. Parents who don’t realize the
difference, miss valuable teaching opportunities.

Teens may appear hard but they’re still very sensitive. When parents
dish out criticism the same way teens do, teens get hurt. Their
understanding of themselves is much more fragile than their actions lead
you to believe. Teens are at a prime time for life-altering experiences.
An offhand comment may make a lasting impression so be careful what you
say and how you say it.

This parenting tip is taken from the book, “Say Goodbye to Whining,
Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids.”

Add comment September 6, 2008 rosevillegas

Do You Know That…

According to a  RESEARCH FINDINGS ON WOMEN:
1. Tests have shown that women rate 3% higher in general intelligence
 than men although their brain size is smaller. Most women act dumb to make their mates look good.

2. Women are walking radar detectors, that is why men have difficulty lying to women. Their brains have the ability to integrate and decipher verbal, visual and other signals of body language.
3. Women want lots of sex with the man she loves. Men just want lots of sex.

4. When men flirt, they will lower their pitch of voice.  Women will raise theirs.

5. Women talk and think aloud while men do them silently.  As a result, men think women talk too much and are nags.

6. Women talk about their problems as a way of relieving stress. She wants to be heard, not fixed by being offered advice and solutions.

7. Speech and words are not a specific brain skill for men.  They find it hard to express themselves. That’s why they often choose greeting cards with plenty of words inside.  That way, there’s less space for them to write.

8. Women leave men, not because they are unhappy with what he can provide, but because they are emotionally unfulfilled.

9. Women uses an average of 20,000 communication words, sounds, and gestures a day. Men only use about 7,000.

10. So if a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you.  But if she’s not talking, you’re in trouble.

11. Men are more thick-skined than women.  Literally.  Which explains why
women have more wrinkles than men.  Boys lose their sensitivity to touch by the time they reach puberty. So where does all that sensitivity go? It all goes to just one area.

12. If a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she can’t concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at work, he can’t focus on his relationship.

13. Men can only do one thing at a time. When they stop their car to read a street directory, they have to turn down the radio. Women’s brains are configured for multi-tasking performance. They can talk on the phone, watch
the TV and cook at the same time.

14. Most men get a brain hemorrhage after 20 minutes of clothes
shopping.

15. When it comes to sex, women need a reason; men need a place.

16. 15% to 20% of men have feminised brains. About 10% of women have masculinised brains. So there are more gays than lesbians in the world.

I don’t know if these things were true or not.  But, hope that it brought a smile on your face (for women).  For you guys, don’t take offense.  Just for laughs.  Ok?  Happy reading!

5 comments September 6, 2008 rosevillegas

What will be your choice?

While browsing my messages, I came across this email back in 2002.  It has touched a cord that’s why I saved it in my inbox.  It was written by a man named Joe Gatuslao from Bacolod, Philippines.  And, I want to share it with you…

CAREER OR FAMILY?

     EVERY moment in life, we are faced with a choice. Which should command
our preference — the demands of our job or the duties to our family?
     IF there is a board meeting today at the same hours that our son
graduates from school, where should we go — to the boardroom or to the graduation ceremony?
     IF we have to make a very important presentation tomorrow, so as to
advance our career, but our wife says she has to see the doctor on a suspicion of cancer, which appointment should we keep?
    THESE are the daily battles of conscience we have to wage, trying to
keep a balance between our responsibility to earn a living and our opportunity to live a life. And our choices invariably reveal who we really are.
     OUR preferences indicate our true character. Our priorities are the
best indicators of our real identity. What profits success? I know that many of
you out there would go for career on the pretension that after all, you are
doing all these for the family.
    MANY of us, would rather become outstanding employees, model personnel
instead of being doting fathers or loving husbands.
    MANY of you would opt to perform exceedingly well in the office even if
you work 12 to 16 hours a day, going home only to change clothes or catch a few hours of sleep.
    BUT what for? At the end of the day, what have you accomplished? What
profits a highly successful professional or wealthy businessman if
ultimately, he loses his family, wrecks his marriage or dishonors the name he will leave to his children?
    WHAT has a rich man accomplished if he has built a fortune and founded
conglomerates of highly profitable companies and yet drives his own wife to
vices or infidelity, his children to drugs and delinquency and himself to
spiritual decay and total burnout?
    WHAT matters most? Look around you. The evidence is overwhelming and
irreversible. Families are shattered. Marriages are broken. Lives are
reduced to utter emptiness.
    EVEN as man advances in wealth and success, he deteriorates on the basic
standards of joy, peace and serenity. As we all compete and struggle for
power and possessions, we often neglect what really matters most. In our
insatiable mania for supremacy over the rest, we often forget the most
important things in life.
    I WILL respect your choice. But as for me, my priorities are clear.
Between career and family, I will always go for family. I can forego that board
meeting and earn the ire of my boss or make a bad impression on my peers. But I shall not inflict a lifetime trauma on my son by sending him alone to graduate without his dad. I can forget that business presentation and lose a valued client or waste a career promotion, but I cannot leave my wife alone in her moments of anxiety.

MEANINGLESS.

      WHY should a well-known public figure commit suicide given all his
fame and fortune? Can his wealth and wisdom compensate for ruptures in his
relationships?
     WHY should a wife of a famous personality commit adultery with the
family driver? Is it lust or vain fixation for the pleasures of the flesh? Or is
it the pain of being neglected and ignored by the husband she used to adore?
     WHY should a son cut his wrist or a daughter drink poison despite all
the luxuries and pleasures they are showered with? Can money replace love? Can pleasure take the place of affections?

THE ULTIMATE HELL.

       TO succeed in career and fail in the family is, to me, the ultimate
hell.
John Grisham, that famous author of legal fictions wrote “The Testament,”
which tells of a highly successful industrialist who made billions of
dollars but lost his family. In the first 10 pages of the novel, he jumped
to his death from his multi-story building in front of his self-centered
children. By his will, he disinherited all of them and bequeathed his
entire estate to an illegitimate daughter who refused to accept it.
     THAT is the ultimate irony; those who lusted for money lost it. Those
who were given all the money refused it. In all his dozen masterpieces, Grisham
tells us about the importance of family.  “A Time to Kill” tells of a
father who went to jail for killing his daughter’s rapists.
     INDEED, we who are simple folks should learn from the mistakes of
others.  We should straighten our lives and put our priorities in order.
     I DON’T know about you. But as for me and my house, our credo is: There
is no success in a career that can make up for a failure in the family.
     BUT if forced to make a choice between career and family, I’ll gladly
choose the latter. This is my philosophy, my article of faith. I pray and
work hard to live up to it.

Same here, Mr.Gatuslao. Same here!

5 comments September 6, 2008 rosevillegas

Lessons about Parenting

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